Life is precious and why do so many try to derail influence and guide you in their way, Be yourself be true to yourself live as you want too
Every guy I've met I've taken to see the manics.....alone again....sad..gonna miss the gigs
98/99 were difficult years. Age 20 and surrounded by deaths of friends and loss of family. An introvert, I withdrew, saving emotional energy where I could. This album and this song especially helped me learn where I was. I get uncomfortable with past memories when I hear it now but the response I had then, in a way I felt understood and that prevented me from feeling isolated. This record is a key document about how I learned about me.
You have only got 1 life, make it happy. Make the right decision. Without hurting others, impossible. I want to be happy. Why can't I ? Because I would rather hurt myself . Cruel or selfish . What's life without happiness, it's all I know
I have followed the Manics since 1991 and their songs have always meant so much to me. Every time I hear "You're Tender and your Tired" I feel such strong feelings..it means so much to me as my child was very unwell. It reminds me of him and describes how my family felt. Their songs are so real and I thank them for always being open and giving us fans songs that mean something xx
It was the second album that I heard from MSP since I live in Mexico and in that moment it was difficult to get it, it was magical to listen to it 1998, it was incredible time and try to understand the perspective of the album, it was fascinating to discover it, after more than 20 years it continues being one of my favorites of life, thank you for creating such an extraordinary album, James, Nicky and Sean, in your memory there is also Richey, with love from Mexico. A faithful fan, Fer Rangel!
When you feel your world come tumbling down, you spend your first Christmas without your kids, you think that nobody and nothing can put into words what you feel...and then you hear it: « You’re tender and you’re tired/you can’t be bothered to decide... ». Such an exquisite, powerful. TRUE song.
This song accompanied - and made tolerable - a long period of my life where I felt stuck. I had been raised a Mormon and found myself unable to meet the expectations required, or to even believe in what I'd been taught. Instead of leaving, I just felt uncertain, alone, and misunderstood. The song reminds me of that time. It's like an old friend. Eventually - and the Manics played a big role as it was because of them that I began reading books - I was able to leave the religion and go my way.
I want people to like me so desperately that it makes me unwittingly cruel.
All my life I’ve played the sad clown, nobody knows the sadness inside. This is quite simply the most beautiful, delicate song that resonates like no other
The Manics have always been a brilliant singles band and This Is My Truth produced four huge hits but looking deeper into the album is where the real beauty lies. Black Dog On My Shoulder is an often overlooked classic and You're Tender & You're Tired is up there with their very best. With You're Tender... I've never known exactly what Nicky was writing about and I prefer that way. It has its own special meaning to me and that will never change.
My teenage years were a mixture of bullying and being ill. I felt socially outcasted by my peers and isolated because of that. Anxiety and depression became a part of me. Discovering this album in 1998, I felt I’d turned a corner. That there is beauty even in the darkest of times ...
This album was my first MSP album and while if you tolerate this was unbelievable, this song resonated with me the most. At 14 in 1998 I did not understand it compared to my years at university in 2002-2006 where I really learnt to think. “Thought about it so many times” just seemed to sum up my life in one line about where I should be and what I wanted to do. I can’t wait to see this live in 2019 and let it take me back to those years.
I discovered the Manics around the time of the 10th anniversary of Richey’s disappearance, and sunk myself into their music. YTAYT quickly became one of my favourites; I was 17, and living with undiagnosed autism and anxiety, and untreated ADHD, and I was slipping into depression: low mood, fatigue, poor appetite, no interest in doing things, and I berated myself for feeling so low when I felt I had no good reason to. The song may not have fixed me, but it did help me to feel less alone.
I REMEMBER BEING ABOUT 15 AND BECOMING A HUGE HUGE FAN BACK IN 1998 AFTER FIRST HEARING "TOLERATE" ON MTV, THEN BUYING THE ALBUM. I WAS BLOWN AWAY AND BOUGHT THE FIRST FOUR ALBUMS. FINALLY I FELT THERE WAS A BAND THAT SANG ABOUT "ME", MY LIFE AND HOW I FELT. THIS ALBUM REMAINS MY FAVORITE. THIS SONG GETS TO MY HEART EVERY TIME. THE LYRICS ARE JUST PERFECT "REBULD THE VOID THE FLOWERS...." IT GETS ME EVERYTIME.
Many of the words resonated with me as a young person with mental health problems. A lyric from Tender and Tired supported me through; “it’s not trivial like they think”. That line stuck with me and reassured me it would be ok and I wasn’t just making it up or being a moody teenager, it was real. I found comfort there. 20 years later I work full time in mental health & am a successful artist/activist.
Doing drugs, weed and buckets of wizz, during one summer and this album sound-tracked that long lost summer. Hazy days with friends enjoying the fruits of youth. Before the paranoia kicked in we all bonded over songs from this album...
Manics were huge during TIMTTMY era. Seeing them live for the first time when they played in Finland 1999 was a big thing for me. I have kept track of their doings since EMG to this day. There have been ups and downs along the way. But having albums like LB, JFPL and RTF - even the solo albums - every once in a while makes it rewarding. But why did you mess with the tracklisting in SATT and TIMTTMY anniversary editions? And why no DVD for the latter? Still waiting for my copy to arrive...